Happy Wednesday friends!! Or shall I say…Happy Hump-Val-Ash Day? Haha, I can’t believe it’s hump day + Valentine’s Day + Ash Wednesday all in one day today!! What a fun day to be had by all!! In life news, the flu/plague is stilling running rampant at the school where I teach. Kids and teachers have been soooo sooo sick over the past few weeks. I am counting my blessings everyday that I have stayed healthy. Pretty sure I have never drank so much Emergen-C or used as many Clorox Wipes as I have in the past few weeks compared to the rest of my entire life. Saying my prayers that everyone gets healthy soon!! #readyforspring
Well, with today being Valentine’s Day and all, I thought i’d get a little more personal with y’all and share some of the lessons I’ve learned about love over the years!!
Lush Tunic (my fave, have it in 5 colors!!) // SPANX Moto Leggings (more affordable version here) // Sam Edelman Suede Pumps // Quay Australia Sunnies // Daniel Wellington Petite Melrose Watch // Styled Collection Stevie Cuff // Hermes Clic Clac Bracelet // Monogram Necklace
True Love is Worth the Wait (Trust me, it IS!!!!)
If you know me at all…then you know it was a long, crazy, adventure to me finally meeting Brian! I went on countless dates (with 62 different guys to be exact!!) until it was finally my time and I haven’t looked back since. If you are feeling like love is never going to happen for you…believe me, IT WILL! Don’t give up!! God has a plan for you and the timing is always the way it’s meant to be!! Just try to be patient and learn something from each experience. We still look back on all the events that lead up to meeting each other and have a good laugh!!
Fun Fact: B and I found many instances where we were at the same place and the same time, but never actually met each other!! God works in mysterious ways! An example is that Brian and I were both in Montego Bay, Jamaica at the same exact time on the resort next to each other. We were both their with exes swimming in the same water just feet from each other! So crazy! Another examples is that Brian’s sister and I figured out that we played soccer against each other for many years!! Brian used to come to every game to watch!! So at some point, Brian saw my younger self displaying my stellar soccer skills!! #miahamm So, as you can see, we were destined to meet…we just had to find the right moment in time!
BE YOU!!! As Doctor Seuss would say…”Today you are you. That is truer than true. There is no one alive that is youer than you.
Another lesson I learned, is to be you! Seems simple, right??? It’s not as easy as it sounds sometimes. The beginning of relationships are all champagne, date nights, kisses, and pure bliss!! One tip I can give you is to be your real self right away!! You owe it to yourself and your SO to show your true colors…some that might not be so pretty too!! True love accepts you no matter what!! I can’t even count the amount of times that B has seen my #uglycry!! Be up front of your life goals too! Do you want a family? Then say so!! It’s not fair to the other person for you to keep it to yourself! Plus, this is how you really learn and build your relationship!! B and I are still learning about each other and that what keeps us having fun!!
Fun Fact: Early on, B had to learn that I turn cray cray when any sort of dance music is on!! Like, full on choreographed dance moves and I don’t give AF who is watchin!!
Oh my!!! B and I are alike in many ways…but oh so different in many others!! We have lovingly coined nicknames for each other due to our very distinct characteristics!! The point is….have fun with it!!! Embrace the things that are different about your SO! They aren’t exactly like you, and that’s a good thing!! Even if your SO has things about them that might grate your nerves, try to take a step back and see the positive side to that particular character trait!! Give it a try..I bet you’ll be able to see it in a different light!!
Fun Fact: B’s nickname for is Spider Monkey..bc HELLO??? I’m a total spaz!! I never stop, move from one thing to the next with great speed!! Haha!! He loves it bc I get things done with a quickness!! B’s nickname is Eeyore. I call him that because he moves at a slower pace and thinks through things in a more analytical and methodical way! I love this bc he calms me down and forces me to think about things before I make a “Spider Monkey” snap decision!
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, Celebrate the Little Things
So, what do I mean by this???? B and I try our darndest not to let little things bother us. Believe me, this is a work in progress and did not happen overnight. We try to use a little tactic that we once saw on an episode of “How I Met Your Mother”. Marshall and Lily would call a timeout during their arguments. We do this and when we call a timeout, we either watch something silly to make us laugh, have a 30 second hug, or take 5-0 minutes to ourselves to cool down! When we come back together, we decide together, “Is what we are fighting about really worth fighting about?” Honestly, 90% of the time…it’s not! Life is WAYYYY too short to let the little stuff get to you!! This little tactic has done wonders for us in taking a step back to remember that each moment in this life is a gift that should be spent in happiness, not arguing over trivial little things!! Instead, we try to celebrate the little things! B and I try very hard to do little things for each other that show each other how much we care! These things don’t have to cost a lot of money, in fact they don’t have to cost anything at all!!
Fun Fact: B does lots of little things for me, but here are a few of my faves! When he knows I am having a bad day, he sends me adorable gifs of fluffy puppies of funny memes to cheer me up! Whenever he stops at the store, he picks up fresh flowers or my fave candy! A few examples of things I do for B. He likes to take his time in the morning, while I am spider monkeying around….so I make his favorite protein shake and line his vitamins up for him! He is always so appreciative of this, bc it saves him time and we can spend a few extra minutes together. Another thing I try to do is book/plan special dates just for him!! I do this, bc ummm blogging takes up A LOT of time! The poor guy has to follow me around and take pictures ALL.THE.TIME and he does it with a smile on his face. I try to make sure I book special things just for him where we don’t have to take 5 bajillion pictures!! Haha! Check insta stories later to see a little treat i planned for his Valentines gift…crossing fingers that he LOVES IT!!
What’s your best advice about love? I’m always so inspired to hear about others loves stories. I find it so awesome that each love story is different and beautiful in its own way! I’d love to hear about yours!! Drop me a comment below!